Dual purposed blog: a journal of my experience as an intended parent through surrogacy, and a resource for others going through the same experience.
Also visit my surrogate's blog (Link on the right) for the other half of the story!

Saturday, September 18, 2010

Questioning

What the heck is wrong with my body? Why did I not respond to the IVF medications?
Why was my estrogen level so low? What is WRONG with me???!!!
Will it work next time with the new "super dose" of medication?
If not, and I still only produce 1 good egg should we attempt it anyway?
Should we have just gone through with it in Idaho while I was there and everything was set up and ready to go?

Oh, I learned 2 minutes ago via facebook that Jane does bartending on the side. Wow, that is great to know.

Thursday, September 2, 2010

Abort mission

I just experienced one of the most frantic difficult decision-making hours of my life.
I had an ultrasound in utah this morning in which I found out that I have only 6 small to very small eggs. I went directly from this appointment to Boise as I needed to be there for appointments the following morning. JUST as I arrived in Boise my doctor (in Boise) called and said she recommended that we quit this cycle and try again. She said her best guess would be that we've have 1 possibly 2 embryos to transfer (60% pregnancy rate with each transfer) and we'd have none to freeze for back-up, miscarriages, or future children.
It was so tough to make the decision because I've already been through so much to get this far. I was there in boise, I'd already taken my kids to utah to be babysat, Steve had a plane ticket in and out of boise tomorrow, I had 4 nights of non-refundable hotel rooms.

Choice #1: Just go for it. Proceed as planned and possibly get 1-2 healthy babies. Risk having no healthy babies in which case we'd have to spend another $15K to try it again (which would mean we couldn't do it for a long time).

Choise #2: Go with dr's advice and try again later. Say goodbye to $6000 in medications, flights, hotels, ultrasound and lab fees. Risk having surrogate change her mind or not getting all of the pieces perfectly in place as they are now. Risk having the same exact problem with not having enough eggs next time.

TOUGH decision but I finally went with option #2 and I feel good about it.

I guess I'm some freak of nature that doesn't produce eggs in reponse to medications like I should. She told me my estrogen level was 34 when it should have been at least 4000. I wonder if that has any relation to my hyperemesis.... anyway, hopefully it will work next time.

New plan: Surrogate will come to Utah for the process and the whole thing will be done in utah in october.